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Conquering Attention Deficit Disorder
ADD in Children
Children exhibit one of three main types of ADD. And although ADD in children seems to exist
worldwide, at least in the countries tested thus far, boys have been found to be afflicted with
ADD more than girls, 3:1. The three main types with the symptoms of each are:
ADHD predominately inattentive type:
(AD/HD-I)5
- Lacks attention to details, makes careless mistakes.
- Has difficulty with lengthy attention span.
- Does not seem to listen.
- Struggles with instructions.
- Struggles with organization.
- Prefers not to use sustained mental effort.
- Misplaces items.
- Can be easily distracted.
- Can be forgetful during everyday activities.
ADHD predominately hyperactive-impulsive type: (AD/HD-HI)5
- Exhibits nervousness movements with hands or feet, twists in chair.
- Does not stay seated for long.
- Is in higher gear, running or climbs a lot.
- Has a tough time handling quiet activities.
- Talks a lot.
- Rushes to reply to questions before they're finished being asked.
- Is impatient.
- Interrupts others.
ADHD combined type: (AD/HD-C)5
- Meets criteria from both sets above.
Regardless of which type of ADD a child has, parents are NOT to blame. The cause of the
disorder is mostly attributed to heredity factors. Good parenting skills or bad ones have nothing
to do with the issue. So outside factors like spoiling a child, abusive or bad parenting, divorce,
poor or poverty living environment, etc. are not to blame.
And even though a child has ADD, that does not mean he or she needs to be "labeled" and stuck into
a category. Many, many children with ADD today can and do learn to overcome their limitations and
far exceed expectations, competing well with those who do not have the disorder.
Studies show that the earlier a child is diagnosed and the earlier treatment begins, the better
chance there is for success. In other words, early intervention is KEY.
There are many ways to help children who have ADD. First of all, let the child know that you care
(and love him or her, if appropriate, as in the case of relatives). Sometimes after a diagnosis,
youngsters may think your opinions of them have changed and that you think less of them. So let
them know that this is not the case at all, even share an imperfection of your own with them to
let them know you work on issues, too, and did as a child.
Also, let children know that you support them in their challenge and struggles with ADD. And try
your best to express your support with positive remarks, praise, encouragement and any help you
can.
Note there will be good days and bad days in dealing with the ADD, just as there are with
anything else. And no one is perfect. So remember the better days when bad ones roll around and
keep on hanging in there! It may help a lot to keep a journal. Jot down notes, (and don't worry
about spelling and grammar- just have fun with it), include school grades, pictures, etc. Make
it multi-media, if possible, and colorful. Then during bad times, you'll have plenty of reminders
in your journal of the progress to date and be proud and encouraged for the both of you.
Another way to help a child with ADD is to get help yourself. Learn all you can about ADD and keep
up with advances in the industry. Reach out to ADD organizations and get on their mailing lists.
Clip magazine articles about ADD and follow up with any resources they share. Ask you own
healthcare provider for ADD information, check out library books on the subject, bookmark ADD
websites and sign up for their free newsletters, etc... Start a folder for ADD information and
put your contacts and resources there.
Then share these resources and tips with other people in the child's network; his or her teachers,
parents / guardians and other concerned relatives, pastor, etc. That way you can all share your
support and concerns and help one another help the child.
Of course, recommend diagnostic testing as soon as possible to make sure of the ADD diagnosis, if
this is in your area of responsibility. If not, maybe you can offer support and the ADD
information in your resources to the one(s) responsible for making that decision.
Next level up, see how YOU can participate in hands-on help with the ADD child. Maybe you can offer
tutoring, reading assistance, help with organizational or other behavioral skills? Maybe you can
help teach study skills like using 3X5 cards and colored markers. Maybe conduct practice verbal
and written quizzes a little every other day. Maybe offer the caretakers (if they are not you) a
day off. Maybe simply offer to gather more information. Volunteer to join the "team" and see what
you can do to help.
Note when you do this, depending upon your role in the child's life and your level of support, you
may need to complete some specialized training first. A workshop or series of training sessions
from qualified ADD professionals may be in order so that you can learn how to best help the
child. You'll need to learn how to teach problem solving, how to reward positive behaviors and
reply to negative behaviors, how to develop a game plan and strategy, monitor and log results,
identify and focus on strengths, handle weakness and much more. So have patience and be open to
learning on your end. And don't be afraid to follow up, ask questions, etc. - in short, be a
team player!
Don't forget to set aside time to take care or you own self and life in the meantime. There are
online forums, chat rooms, message board, and listservs (no cost email list subscriptions where
you can email others) for communicating and reaching out to others in similar conditions. In this
way, you can get some support and encourage for yourself. And you can share with others to help
them, too.
You can also find out when local and online ADD and other helpful organizations are having upcoming
meetings, presentations, lectures and workshops, and sign up. Many teach and share tips and
advice for adults who are helping children with ADD.
Helping someone with a high energy level, like a child with ADD, can sure take a high amount of
energy. And no one can "always" be at the best, highest energy level 24/7. So reach out and take
care of yourself, too. "Slow and steady wins the race," as old Aesop's story goes.
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